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Thursday, September 18, 2014

Musings with a Medium

Musings with a Medium

I've been recapping my Lily Dale experiences for the last couple of weeks, hoping that my personal account will help people understand inter-realm communication. Today, I am sharing what happened at my reading with a Medium.

First, the Medium explained how she worked and offered a prayer. Then, she began talking. As always, there were hits and misses. However, this time, a man immediately came through who I was able to identify by description. The Medium mentioned part of his last name as a corroboration. That was a good "hit."

After the Medium identified this man, she heard about his wife, and asked if his wife was in spirit? I said "yes," and the Medium mentioned the month that this woman had passed away. Then, she brought through another piece of identifying information for the woman; not a name, but an activity that she enjoyed. After that she asked, "Did they like to travel?" Yes, they did.

With these successes, she then brought through a few pieces of information which didn't mean anything to me. Someone who wrung their hands? Sorry, don't know.

She got back on track by bringing through the gist of this gentleman's first name. She didn't get the actual name, but she was very close. A different Medium explained to me that when he gets names, his closest hits are names which relate to someone he knows. For example, he might know someone named William. If a Spirit Person named William came through, the Medium could get the familiar name "William." On the other hand, if someone came through with a name the Medium didn't know, the Medium might not be able to get that name. For example, if someone was named "Augustine," and the Medium didn't have that name in his brain, he might get "beer Stein," or the month of August.

Back to the reading. Up until this point, I hadn't given the Medium any clues. I had just said "yes," or "no," or "uh huh." I decided to ask if there were messages from these spirits. Things turned serious as they suggested that my husband begin thinking about retirement and what he might enjoy doing.

When I asked if there was any kind of a healing message, the Medium said, "The heart wasn't in it. Somehow, there wasn't that heart-to-heart connection in this life, or over a situation. It's that feeling part, that understanding, that misunderstanding."

The rest of the message was something I think we can all benefit from hearing. She went on to say that after people pass, they begin to see how they affected other people, and they may ask for forgiveness. However, there is still an energetic bond between the two people and neither one can heal this two-party situation on their own. Both parties need to work on forgiveness so that they can move forward. I guess we can't expect an apology from someone on the other side to do all the work of healing a difficult relationship. Someone in spirit can apologize to us, but we have to accept the apology and work to free ourselves from the damage that any stress-filled relationship may have caused.

We left this discussion. The remaining few minutes focused on my life. As with the previous reading with the psychic (see the September 4 blog post), the Medium picked up that I was a writer. She said:

"I feel your ability to communicate, to connect verbally or with the written word, or on the Internet, or with writing of any kind, is a wonderful opportunity for you to express. I don't know if you are going to be teaching or giving out information, or lecturing, but you have a good platform this whole year, right now, right into mid-summer next year. That is something that you would like to do. I feel that you are a communicator anyway. I feel it is going to be enhanced with a sense of humor and joyfulness. Know that this is an opportunity for you to lay the groundwork for something which is going to give back to you in the future."

That was a lovely message. Laughing

We talked about the importance of meditation, especially prior to writing. It's good to allow an opening for ideas to pop into my head.

Our session ended with a prayer thanking everyone who had come through. During this prayer, someone else tried to sneak in from the other side, but I didn't recognize him. Someone with a cough and difficulty breathing. I might know who this is, but I need more identifying information.

All-in-all, I think this was a very successful reading.

Next time, I'll write about readings from the psychic's perspective. If you want to get a jump on that information, check out some of the Psychics Speak interviews. They present each psychic's viewpoint in their own words.

Let me know if you have any questions. You can e-mail me at


1:12 pm mst

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Choose a Path, Any Path

Quote from a Psychic - Heard at Lily Dale's Inspiration Stump

A Medium said:

"A gentleman comes in and puts his arm around you and gives you the biggest hug possible. I know you feel it. He hasn't gone anywhere and he wants you to know that. I know when you think about him, he's there. He's not going to go anywhere. He is guiding you and helping you."

"When you wonder, ‘What am I going to do? Where am I going to go?' take a deep breath and go one direction or the other. If you don't like it, you can change your mind. Do you understand this?"

Audience Member: Yes.

"Don't be immobile because you are afraid of which direction to go. Alright? Thank you."

I heard a similar message at another session: If we want something to happen in our lives, it is important to action. Spirit can inspire us, but we have to take the action. We also have to remember that if we go down one path and we don't like it, we can change direction. We can make a new choice. This is a free-will universe.

10:35 am mst

Thursday, September 11, 2014

Inspiration Stump

Part 3: Inspiration Stump in Lily Dale, NY

Lily Dale is a spiritualist community in New York. During the summer, there are readings twice each day at a forest clearing known as Inspiration Stump. Mediums stand in front of an audience and give messages from Spirit. Unfortunately, they can no longer stand on The Stump. The Stump was an evergreen tree which was knocked over in a storm. For years, Mediums stood on The Stump to give messages. Ultimately, The Stump rotted. Now, Mediums just stand in front of the crowd which is seated on wooden benches. Pictures of The Stump can be seen above.

Three kinds of Mediums give messages at the Stump: Registered Lily Dale Mediums, Visiting Mediums, and Student Mediums. During my first session at The Stump, three people gave messages. The next day, more than nine Mediums gave messages during the one-hour session. It was interesting to see how different Mediums worked.

Most of the Mediums looked at the audience, saw a Spirit Person around an audience member, asked if that person wanted a message, then gave the message. The Medium often described the Spirit Person before giving the message. The audience member was asked to either provide their name, or acknowledge that they understood the message. The person's audible response strengthened the connection to the Medium and to Spirit.

There was also a second way of working. In this case, the Medium stood near The Stump and began receiving and relaying information. He provided four or five pieces of information then asked, "Does anyone understand this?" Several people in the audience would raise hands and the Medium would come to them and ask which parts they understood. After that, the Medium would bring in more information, then check with the audience saying, "Who can take that?" As this conversation progressed, fewer and fewer people could relate to the specific information until there was just one person who understood the whole thing. Then, the Medium would give a more-detailed message to that person.

Here is an example of how this worked:

A Medium would say something like, "A gentleman has stepped in and I like him very much. I think he was in his late 70s when he passed. He's talking about "77 Sunset Strip" so I think he is trying to give me around 77 years old. If you understood this, you would understand the name of William around him. William or Bill somewhere close by him. He stands about my height, but he may have been taller in life and shrunk down a little. He might have been around 6 foot.

As I talk to him, he is impressing upon me some real trouble with his chest and his lungs. I have difficulty breathing. I believe he was sick for quite a while before he passed. A couple of different things happened, and he had to go into the hospital maybe three times. An expensive stay; more than just overnight.

He talks about a big family, an extended family. I don't know about his brothers and sisters, but definitely grandchildren. He might have had lung cancer or COPD, that roughness is coming into my throat and I'm feeling difficulty towards the end.

He has some hair. It might have gone white. He holds himself well. He holds himself with a good stance. He doesn't look frumpy or like he's out on the street. He took care of himself. He definitely has a good mind. Can anybody understand any part of this?

Several people raise hands.

The Medium asks a group up front: What part of this do you understand?

They respond: All of it.

The Medium asks a second person: How about you?

I had a grandfather who died of lung problems. He was William.

Do you understand the rest of the description, about 6 foot tall?


The Medium asks a third person: You back there?

I understood the description, but the person's name was Whitey.

I'm going to go a little further. If you were to understand this William, you would also understand a John in the family. Do you understand that ma'am?

I do.

Let me go on one speck further. [To the people in the back]: I don't think I'm with you. Thank you. I think I am over here. [The Medium has found the person in the audience who he is talking to.]

This gentleman would have really loved his family and been around his family. He would be there for family events and on the phone if you weren't going to show up. He would force you to get there. Would you understand that?


Would you understand that he was intelligent enough to run a business and work hard himself physically? I feel like he kept himself in really good shape. Do you understand him wearing glasses off and on?


I drew a picture of him a few minutes ago. He didn't want me to put the glasses on him. I'm going to hand that to you. Do you recognize him?


I always like the "yeses." [Everyone chuckles at the surprise ending of the reading.]

Just when you begin to wonder if maybe this is a game of odds where the Medium can winnow down the number of people understanding the hints until he gets the right person, the Medium produces a drawing of the Spirit Person and the audience member recognizes that person. The process suddenly becomes very impressive.

My trip to Lily Dale was fascinating. I hope you are enjoying my recap.

By the way, before I left Lily Dale, I talked to a woman in the bookstore, and my book, My Psychic Search, is now in the Lily Dale bookstore! It's so exciting. Of course, you don't have to visit Lily Dale to purchase a copy. You can just go to The Book page and order it right now.

As always, let me know if you enjoyed this post. I love hearing your comments.


11:51 am mst

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

Lily Dale's Inspiration Stump

Part 2: Quotes from Psychics - Lily Dale Mediums

Today, I want to share several things which I heard at Lily Dale's Inspiration Stump. The first few ideas explain how energy connections work. After those thoughts, there are two examples of readings.

The Medium who ran the session told us that if we needed to come in or leave before the service was over, never to walk between a Medium and the person for whom he or she was reading. It would be like literally cutting a telephone line because there was an energy flow between the Medium and the person and Spirit. She added that audience members needed to answer the Mediums verbally, audibly, because voices helped create the link between the Mediums, the people, and Spirit.

A second Medium told us that even if we didn't recognize the name or the information coming through, we shouldn't dismiss the information. He said, "I don't think Spirit wastes a thought with me."

We were also reminded that Spirit tries to get more than one message out every time they speak. We needed to listen to everyone's messages and if they felt like they were coming for us, we should take them home.

Several Mediums mentioned that our spirit loved ones are always around us. They want to help and we can call for their help at any time. One Medium added, "Know that spirit people are always around you. As a matter of fact, you have way, way less privacy than you think you do. Talk to them. Say ‘hi' to them. Ask them questions, close your eyes and feel their response. At the very least, feel their presence. They are all around you all the time."

Here are two short readings which will give you a feel for the kind of public messages which people received. The Medium is in the regular font, and the audience member is in Italics.

First Example:

The Medium addressed a young woman in the audience: Spirit gave you a bunch of books in your lap. Are you thinking about going back to school?

I considered it.

Spirit is considering it too. [laughter] When Spirit hands you one book, it's like a class, but when Spirit hands you several books, maybe you should think about this course of action in terms of some class work. Would it be in teaching or psychology?

The two options were along the lines of psychology because I have a counseling background, or education.

Teaching or psychology. Spirit is taking me into the college Office of the Registrar and I'm looking at one part of the book which says Psychology and another part which says Teaching. I really feel a lot of lethargy about you going back to school. This isn't a new thought for you. It's been around for a while and you keep putting it on the back burner, the back burner, the back burner. Spirit is trying to shove it onto the front burner. Spirit would like you to take a long look at the horizon. Look down that spyglass and say, "I'm going to be doing this for 30 years."

[Young woman doesn't look happy.]

Yeah, that's what Spirit says "Yucky poopy." Why are you waiting to take your life to a new track, a new target, a new joy? Let's go do it. Ten years from now you're going to be 10 years older anyway, why not be in the place, doing the things you want to do by then, rather than still being in this place? You can do what you want to do and take the time that you want to take, but Spirit is lighting a burner under your butt to get you moving. Okay?

[Young woman's aunt adds]: I just told her that.

See, you don't even need a Medium!

Second Example:

Medium addresses another young woman: Who is moving? Spirit just brought a bunch of cartons in front of me.


Spirit put the cartons on the bench. Half of the cartons are empty and half are just a little bit full. I have a sense that we're not really sure about where we are going. You understand? We have a sense of getting on the verge to move, but they are on the bench, not getting filled, still empty. We are not in the action of moving. You understand that?


Spirit shows me that in January 2015, and the first quarter of 2015, they start throwing things into the boxes. Don't make yourself crazy over not being certain now, the certainty is going to come to you over the holidays. But when it comes to you, be prepared. There is going to be some opportunity which allows you to move very, very quickly at that time. Spirit is giving me two thumbs up for that.

You need to go to the dentist.

I do. I have a cavity.

You lost a filling?

No, I have a cavity and my wisdom teeth are coming in.

Spirit took your hand and took you to the door which said "Dentist." Let's not procrastinate about that. Let's not do it in October because October is Mercury retrograde. See if you can get it done in September unless you procrastinate like you have been doing. Let's get it done in September.


Not all of the readings/messages were this clear. There were messages which no one understood. It is way more interesting to think about the times psychic ability works, than about the times when things aren't clear. Smile

I'll write more about Inspiration Stump on Thursday. Does this kind of blog post interest you? Do you like reading examples of psychic work? If you let me know what kinds of blog posts interest you, I'll write more of them.


11:18 am mst

Thursday, September 4, 2014

The Truth about a Psychic Reading

Lily Dale, Part 1: The Truth about a Psychic Reading

Lily Dale, a Spiritualist community in western NY, is a relaxing place with a gentle undercurrent of wisdom. During my visit, I had a reading with a psychic, a reading with a Medium, two trips to Inspiration Stump, a session at the Healing Temple, a chat at the Museum, and a visit to the bookstore. I'll break my long story into shorter blogs. Today is Part 1, A Psychic Reading.

I have had quite a few psychic readings and I know how to behave: answer "yes" or "no" honestly, don't give away too much, and ask about the parts which interest you. Because I have had so many readings, I have set the bar for a reading pretty high. I want to hear verifiable information.

At this particular reading, the psychic began with a short prayer, then told me about my childhood. She said things which might, or might not, have been accurate. I really don‘t remember those elementary school years clearly enough to say that she was exact, but I think she was just warming up.

After that she said, "You have ‘practical enthusiasm.' It's like there is this spontaneity in you where you say ‘Okay, let's do it,' yet you make sure you do it in a practical way and you look to see how much water is in the pool before you jump in. You have common sense in your enthusiasm." Well, if you've read this blog long enough, you know that is me. I LOVE this work, yet I'm still skeptical. I would term that "practical enthusiasm."

Without me providing any clues, these are some of the things she got right:

I like my hermit time.
I am happy to travel alone.
I don't like taking advice.
I am a writer.
I recharge myself by the ocean.
I don't realize how psychic I am (I hear this all the time, but I haven't figured out how I am different from anyone else).

Do these characteristics apply to you too? Psychics don't say the same thing to everyone. She was clearly picking up my energy. That was great . . . and I wanted more. I already knew me. I wanted to hear from the deceased with names, dates, and places. LOL

So this psychic brought someone through saying, "I feel someone coming in from the Spirit side of life who is coming in with a great deal of love. Can you place a woman who had a cheerful way about her? I don't mean she was Little Miss Sunshine, but she was somebody who was very loving and really wanted to support the people around her." She went on to give me additional details about how supportive this woman was and how easy she was to talk with. However, the psychic was feeling the woman's presence, not hearing or seeing her, so she couldn't get a name or an event which could pin down this person.

There were so many things the psychic could have said to identify this spirit, but these things were not said. Perhaps the deceased person didn't say them, or maybe the psychic couldn't pick them up. Psychics can only relay what they receive. If I had guessed who the woman was, and said her name aloud, it might have amplified the connection.

It's easy to say that there are people on the other side who love us. I want more detail. You know me, "practical enthusiasm." Give me something I can verify, and I will be highly enthusiastic.

I am spoiled. I'm so used to direct, channeled messages that it seems slow to listen to someone feel an idea, then have to translate that feeling into a message. I'm used to "boom boom, boom" - lots of words.

The reading moved forward with the psychic saying that although she didn't know what I did for a living, she felt that I could be doing it for as long as I choose to do it. She felt that my position was stable, that I had built a presence, and that I had carved a niche for myself. If there was going to be a change, it would be because I wanted to add something to my job description. This sounded good to me.

Then she went on to tell me that I needed to do some stretching exercises; some body maintenance. She thought that I tensed up at times, especially through the shoulders and the lower back. I felt fine as I listened to her. I agreed that stretching was good. Little did I know that the next day my back would go out and I wouldn't be able to stand straight for a week. I'm still stooped over, but I'm getting better every day. Score another point for the psychic.

Then, she asked a big question: Do you write?

I do.

She saw the writing going well, and encouraged me to keep doing it. She said that it will branch out from what I have done up to this point, and it will be successful. Cool.

As our session was ending, one more person came through from Spirit. I am pretty sure I know who this was. Again, no name, but this time a story I could verify.

In my memory, the reading seemed pretty general, but listening to the recording, I heard specifics. I remember the reading as being general because she talked about me and my personality while I was waiting to hear from my deceased relatives, or hear the particulars of the success of my work. Listening to the recording, and the actual wording, was crucial. It reminded me of all the information which was accurate. Things started slowly and there wasn't as much detail as I had hoped for with the mediumship aspect, but I left feeling good about my blogging and about the supportive connection I use to do this writing.

Here I am WRITING to share my story with you. Hope you enjoyed it!

Let me know what you think.


12:02 pm mst

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

Quote from a Psychic - Energetic Connection

I heard this twice at Lily Dale's "Stump." The Stump is where Mediums stand in front of an audience and relay messages from Spirit to audience members.

"If you are in the audience and must leave for some reason, never walk between the Medium and the person who is receiving the message. There is a physical, energetic connection between the Medium and the person, and walking between them will break the connection." The speaker went on to note that the Medium is connected to the deceased friend in one direction, and the living friend in a different direction.

These are actual, physical, energetic connections. 

8:08 am mst

Thursday, August 28, 2014

Lily Dale

I just spent two days in Lily Dale, a Spiritualist community in southwestern New York state. What an interesting spot. I had a reading with a generalist psychic the first day, and a Medium the second day. Both of them connected with my deceased relatives. In between the readings, I listened to messages at "The Stump," and attended a session at the Healing Temple.

Lily Dale is a small, serene community. I was fortunate to be there on quiet weekdays at the end of the season. The place seemed very calm, with just a few folks walking around on their way to readings . . . until it was time for "Demonstrations of Mediumship" at The Stump. Sixty or 70 people would show up hoping to get a message. Interestingly, people who received one message, often received multiple messages. It was as if their deceased friends needed to maximize this moment to come through.

I'll write more about this fascinating adventure over the next week or so. I want to listen to some of my recordings so I can give you more details. Stay tuned.


12:15 pm mst

Tuesday, August 26, 2014


I had a reading with a psychic today, and I'm going to see a Medium tomorrow. I'll let you know how it all works out. 

My "Quote from a Psychic" is that my writing is going well, and I need to spend more time at the beach. I like that.


7:37 pm mst

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

Predicting the Future

Predicting the Future - New Ideas

I've written several times about the things which come into play when psychics predict the future. People have a "most-probable" future, and psychics can often pick up on this future and tell people what might happen. However, everyone has free will and can make choices which change their future. In the moment of the reading, the future that the psychic sees may be accurate but, at a later time, the predicted event might not have happened. Why? The client may have changed their mind and gone a different way.

We often discuss why predictions don't come true, but sometimes we should think about why predictions do come true.

There may be a few life experiences which we are destined to try. These are experiences which we contracted for before being born. Psychics can sometimes see these big life themes. However, even with these experiences, we have still choices. For example, we may be destined to try marriage, but we can choose who to marry.

One psychic told me that he can accurately predict any future which has been determined, but not all events may have been determined at the time of the reading.

Here's an example of an accurate prediction: Years ago, I showed a family photo to a psychic, and the psychic told me that a woman in the photo was going to need knee surgery. This person had recently had knee surgery and I thought that was what the psychic was picking up. The psychic told me that the person would need additional knee surgery, and it was true. A few months later, the person had a total knee replacement.

Good psychics give the information as clearly as they get it. The only way that they know if their predictions have come true is if a client tells them about it later. Client feedback provides outside confirmation of the predicted events. Most psychics don't ask for feedback, but clients often let them know what happens. Or, clients continue to call them for readings, and the psychics figure that they must be accurate or the clients wouldn't return.

Lately, I've been part of an online discussion regarding the ability to predict the future. It's interesting to hear the psychics' opinions on this topic. The woman who started the thread asked if psychics could see the future? If they could be "future tellers"? She seemed to have a skeptical viewpoint, but it turns out that she had been able to predict the future, and she wanted insights from other psychics on this phenomenon.

In this discussion, the idea of free will was brought up several times. One person commented, "Either you believe that we have free will . . . or you believe that we don't and that our lives are predestined - in which case psychics and mediums would be right all of the time."

He went on to say:

"The reality is that any psychic reading is nothing more than a snapshot of you and your energy at that particular moment in time. It can show you where you are headed if you continue on your present path or show you which path you need to get on to reach your desires.

"But it is only a snapshot. You can change your path - either consciously or unconsciously - with the hundreds of small decisions you make every day. As your intentions and your focus shift, so does your future. This is why some people move through life clearly and others bob around like driftwood on the waves."

One psychic reader remarked that she wouldn't advertise herself as a "future teller," although sometimes spirit beings tell her about a client's future, and she repeats the predictions. Important information is often relayed by a spirit, a passed loved one, or a passed friend. These messages come through for a reason.

Another Intuitive notes that during readings she often provides preliminary information and spiritual counseling, but then the Universe comes through and uses her for the remainder of the reading, speaking through her. Sometimes, a relative or friend who has passed to the other side will come through with a message for the client. This psychic can't call the loved ones in, but when they do appear, the messages are usually accurate.

The same psychic adds that when doing e-mail readings, most every word comes from the Universe. After rereading and sending the messages, she often worries that clients will think she is crazy because she doesn't understand what has written. However, people write back to her tell her that the readings are good.

Similarly, a couple of people commented that the most accurate information comes to them when they are in a trance state. At times, the trance is deep enough that the psychic has no idea what they are saying to the client. Many psychics avoid this kind of deep trance during readings. They like to have an idea of what they are saying. They want to be sure to share information appropriately.

One spiritualist minister is a psychic medium. She says that she provides accurate readings of the future, sometimes with dates and/or times. She receives this information from spirit teachers and guides.

Someone else mentioned that psychics aren't the only professionals who predict the future. Doctors also use their knowledge and skills to let a patient know whether or not their condition will improve. The patient can look for multiple opinions on their condition, and consider multiple treatment options. What happens when a doctor is wrong? No one questions the fact that the doctor wasn't correct, and no one suggests that patients shouldn't go to doctors. And, sometimes doctors are correct. Just like psychics.

Please keep in mind that a reading with a psychic should be viewed as a consultation. Readings are for guidance only. No psychic is 100% accurate because future events are not set in stone. What you choose to do with the information, including any actions you take, are your responsibility. A psychic reading is not a substitute for medical, legal, or other professional advice.

After the reading, take time to think about the information you heard. Don't take any rash actions. Don't take the readings too seriously. Just enjoy the information and wait to see if any of the predictions come true.

Have you heard an accurate prediction from a psychic? I would love to hear about it. You can contact me at


5:26 pm mst

Monday, August 18, 2014

Quote from a Psychic - Maryushka
Quote from a Psychic

I asked Maryushka, "What do you think happens when people die? at the moment of death? after death?"

She answered:

"At the moment of death, their energy leaves the living plane that we are on. It goes to the next level of energy. From there, most people hook right up with the people who love them. They see the white light, they go down the tunnel. There, they are with their people.

"I believe in the doubling of the soul so that all of your people, your relatives, are there waiting for you when you go. There is no 'Never Never Land' where you are stuck. I know that there are ghosts who are stuck, who can't move on. I don't know why. I know you can help them let go of this plane and move on to the next plane. Most people have people waiting to greet them and help them. The thousands of reports of near-death experiences all tell the same basic story of the white light, the tunnel and the relatives. There's Jesus, there's Mary. It depends on who you are looking for. They are there to get you to the place you are supposed to be. You stay there.

"When you are ready to reincarnate, a piece of you stays there and a piece of you comes down to do more Earthly learning because there are situations which you can't learn there. Plus, you need to test your free will. There, it's not necessary. You are all-empowered. Your learning is different."


This makes sense to me. How about you?


3:59 pm mst

Thursday, August 14, 2014

Suicide: Perspectives from Psychics


In honor of Robin Williams, I am going to share what I have heard from psychics about suicide.

There are different types of suicide. Some suicides are the reaction to life events which the person perceives as so negative that they feel they need an escape. These souls will cross over and go through a period of healing and assessment. Then, they will have to return to Earth to play out another life where they will have the chance to work through similar issues in a more-productive way. Their time on the other side will be limited and there will be a quick return to Earth. In the new lifetime, they will have to rebalance any negative energy which their suicide generated (Karma). This includes rebalancing energy with their loved ones who suffered after their death.

Another type of suicide is pre-determined. Some people are destined to complete their lives at a particular time, and may have choices about how to leave that life: illness, car accident, suicide, and so forth. If their choice of suicide can be used as a teaching tool for those remaining on Earth, they might choose this type of death. In this case, they will cross over, go into healing, and have the same opportunities we all have to assess our recently-completed lifetime and plan a new one. A quick turnaround is not necessary. They will have as much time as they need on the other side to relax, regroup, and work on their spiritual development. They will have created positive Karma if they inspired others who were thinking about suicide, to remain on the Earth plane.

Aitreyia, a psychic, told me: "The spirit might have had two or three ways out, but they go within a week of their time."

Then she explained a third kind of suicide: "The other thing which is interesting is that sometimes Karma is playing out. For example, in a previous lifetime, someone's mother may have committed suicide. This lifetime, the person commits suicide to show the former mother what it was like for them."

From our viewpoint on Earth, we cannot know if someone's suicide was their escape, a teaching gift for us, or a rebalancing of Karma. All we can do is love them, hold them in light, and pray for their healing. Flood them with love and compassion. In fact, flood their friends and family with love, light, and compassion to support their healing and to help them regain their footing.

In all cases, the soul survives.

Two psychics told me that they thought that people who committed suicide might not go to the other side immediately. They might remain earthbound, seeing all of the things which are happening to their loved ones, but not being able to provide guidance or affect outcomes. They would remain earthbound until the time when their death would have occurred naturally.

In 2008, Concetta Bertoldi wrote a book entitled, Do Dead People Watch you Shower? (Harper Collins, NY, p. 49). In this book, she provided her understanding of what happens to people who have committed suicide. She believes that the other side is filled with justice, forgiveness and healing. Spirit Guides help the individual who has committed suicide to forgive and heal himself. It is the spirit who killed himself who must be able to forgive himself. However, this isn't easy because the spirit is aware that it has done something wrong. The person has lost the opportunity to balance that life's Karma and has created additional Karma which will need to be rebalanced in another lifetime. She felt that people who committed suicide would be forgiven by G-d, but would have to struggle to forgive themselves.

In his book, born Knowing (Hay House, CA, 2003, p. 208), John Holland explains that there is no running from problems. Since there's no real death, there's no escape from dilemmas and issues. He has a very different kind of feeling when communicating with people who have committed suicide. They are usually full of regret because they can see how those left behind were affected. On the other side, they begin to understand the differences they could have made in their own lives, as well as the lives of others. When these spirits communicate with John, they rarely want to talk about how they passed and they don't communicate with him for long. He believes that these spirits are going through a process of healing and need all of their energy to work on themselves. He suggests that people pray for those who have taken their own lives so that they can be assisted in the healing process.

Additional notes on the psychics' thoughts on suicide can be found in the book, My Psychic Search: discovering what psychics do, what psychics know, and how they can help us improve our lives. Check Chapter 18, "Between Lives."

Please let me know if you have any comments or questions.


9:25 am mst

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Quote from a Psychic - Knowing Everything

Quote from a Psychic - Knowing Everything

"When I was working for a chiropractor in CA, the Indigo kids were showing up and I had a chance to sit with one of them while her mother went in to see the chiropractor. I asked this Indigo child what I had forgotten. At that time, there was lots of information about the year 2012 and what our lives would be like after that.

"As I talked to this Indigo child, and I looked into her eyes, I had an out-of-body experience which was very similar to what people talk about in the tunnel. I didn't see the light, but I knew I was going towards it. It was like Star Wars where you can see the stars flying by.

"The next thing I knew, I was being transported back and there were no questions. I had no questions, I didn't need them. I knew. I still know. But to ask me a specific question . . . .

Why are we here on this earth? To experience and grow in ways that no other soul has the opportunity to do. I think that we are very honored to be here. No other souls that we know of, not even the angels, Guides, or masters, have the opportunity to taste. They can't spit, they can't make love, they don't touch. They don't have the senses we have.

"I think that we are the honored ones."

Cynthia Rae

11:38 am mst

Sunday, August 10, 2014

Do what brings you Joy

Find what brings you joy and do more of it

This is a channeled message which I heard in July. I hope it is helpful to you. It reminded me to do the things which I enjoy. It's easy to get lost in the routine of everyday life. I need to step out of my comfort zone too, and pursue a few new adventures. Here we go:

Prior to your incarnation, you were so excited about coming in with all of the possibilities which you had. All the things you wanted to do. To sing, to skip, to experience the landscape, to experience the interaction with people, to experience the interaction with animals, to spread love, to spread joy, to spread compassion. Those things that you are built of. Those things which you truly are. To give the piece of your energy in creating Heaven on Earth. It is not a dream. It is a reality. Creating Heaven on Earth starts with you.

"Seek and ye shall find." If you seek out love, you will find love. If you seek out harmony, you will find it. The more you recognize and place gratitude upon it, the more Source understands your feelings, and your feelings are the key to creation. That on which you focus your attention is what comes into your life. It doesn't matter if it's good (what you would call good), or bad (what you would call bad); where you focus your attention is what you experience. Why focus on disease? Why focus on corruption? Why focus on violence when you can shift your focus onto those things which are pleasing to you. It is our suggestion to do just that. Focus on that which pleases you, and you will have a very memorable, pleasant life, which will be highly valued to you in your Higher Self. Isn't that what the life experience is about? Being that co-creator with Source? Creating the experience that you wish? Fulfilling all of your desires, your wants; to experience the dreams which you have had?

If there is something you don't like about your life, changing your mind, changing your thoughts, is the first step. Know what changes you want, what experiences you want. Don't be hung up on how the changes should go along. Focus on the end product and see the end product being established in your life. Not the opposite of it. Be careful with that.

Many people, when they try to create, focus on the "lack of." The one we love to pick on is, "I don't have enough money. I need more money." You say you need more, but you're not focusing on "more money," you are focusing on the lack of money. Most people miss the subtle difference. See yourself as abundant. Be abundant. Act abundant. There are many little tricks to do that until you can get into the hang of it. We are not saying, "Fake it 'til you make it," for in faking it you still know, and Source knows, what your true feelings are. Learn to adjust your belief patterns and your actions to create what you want. It's a huge topic. The simplest explanation is: Focus on the end product. Don't worry about the opposite. Don't put your mindset there.

The trick is, you don't need to know exactly what you want. Fill your heart. If it is pleasing to you, then go for it.


P.S. This message is similar to what Vicki said last week about expectations. You can expect the end product, but you can't always know how you will get there. Do what you love, expect success, and let the Universe orchestrate the rest.

11:14 am mst

Thursday, August 7, 2014

Psychic Fair Enlightenment

Psychic Fair Enlightenment

I want to share with you some of the things I heard at last Sunday's Psychic Fair. I enjoy setting up a table at the Fair and selling my book, jewelry, and crystal pyramids. I am not set up as a psychic reader, so people hang around and talk to me while they are waiting for their readings. I hear the most fascinating things. As long as people are interesting, I'm happy to listen. A woman sitting next to me suggested that I start charging people just to listen to them, like Lucy in the Peanuts comic. Not yet. I feel more like Frasier Crane: "I'm listening."

So what did I hear?

One woman asked me about the interviews I had done with psychics. I told her that I had recorded more than 35 interviews. She had done a lot of interviewing for her doctorate, and she thought that the interviews would be valuable as historical pieces: "This is what being psychic was like in the year 2014." Interesting perspective.

One guy asked about my work, and I told him all about My Psychic Search book. He knows people who work on the TV show Ancient Aliens, and he also knows George Noory from the radio show Coast to Coast. I told him that, as far as I knew, I was the only one doing this kind of work, assembling knowledge from multiple psychics. He suggested that I contact Coast to Coast and see if they are interested in talking with me. I don't know when I'll do that, but it's fun to think about the future of this Project and all the places it might go.

I spent lots of time talking with Vicki Talvi-Cole, an artist and an Intuitive Healer at the Fair. This was the first time we had had a long conversation. Her ideas expanded the concepts in my brain. I strained to understand what she said, but the concepts sounded so right. I hope I am remembering correctly what she told me. Are you ready to think about things in a different way?

Vicki and I were talking about moving into the fifth dimension. She said we were already there (I've heard this before). I told her that I hoped that was true; I wanted to live in a calmer, more peaceful world. However, when I thought about what was going on in the Middle East (the Israeli/Palestinian war, ISIS, etc.), I couldn't reconcile those conflicts with moving into a new dimension. I understood that there were people who were so locked into violence being the only solution to their problems that all they could do was create violence. That was their role here. But what about the other people? The collateral damage?

Vicki said, "There are no victims. Everyone signed up for these roles." This sounds true, yet is hard for me to grasp. Just the week before, I had a similar conversation with another Intuitive about the people who had died in the Malaysian airline crash. He told me that the crash was part of the contract they had agreed to before birth. They might not remember signing that contract but, eventually, it would all make sense to them.

Vicki and I also talked about time. She said that everything happened at once: past, present, and future. I shared with her a dream I had had the previous week. In that dream, I was visiting with a friend who was planning to remodel her kitchen. While I was talking with my friend in that time period, I was also living in a future time period where I could see how the remodeling job had turned out. I could see the kitchen prior to remodeling, and I could also see it from the perspective of a future time frame after the project had been finished and the walls had been moved. Being in two time frames at once had the effect of me looking like I was psychic because I could tell her what the remodeled kitchen looked like. In my dream, I thought, "This must be what it is like to be psychic: it's not a big deal to live in two time periods at once, but it makes me look like I can predict the future."

Vicki and I talked about letting go of expectations, and how if we expect something, it happens. Huh? What is the difference? I've heard this before too. I think she explained that we can expect something to happen, like fame and fortune, but we can't have expectations about how it will happen. All we can do is ask, "How do I do this?" and let the Universe figure out the rest. You know it's going to happen so you expect it. But you don't know how it's going to happen, so you don't have expectations. Does that make sense to anyone reading this blog? Vicki, did I get that right?

Oh, one more thing. This goes back to last week's blog post about Licensing. The City of Tucson is requiring all of the readers and healers at the Psychic Fair to be licensed as "fortunetellers." Several readers didn't come to the Fair because they didn't want to deal with licensing. Other readers protested being called fortunetellers, but when someone asked, "What would you like to be called?" there was no answer. There is no one word which encompasses all of the readers and healers who show up at the Fair.

So, that was my whirlwind of a day at the Psychic Fair. There is so much more to these Fairs than just getting readings. They provide a peaceful place to spend the day.

If you are interested in reading more about Vicki, she has a website at She works with horses to help people heal. In October, she will facilitate a two-day workshop with horses entitled, Animal Kingdom, Healing Human Hearts, they've been waiting for you . . .  You can find out more by checking her website.

Thank you Vicki, and thank you to all the interesting people who stopped at my Psychic Fair table to share their insights. The next Fair will be September 7. I hope to see you there!


11:13 am mst

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Quote from a Psychic - Rhonda Gibony' Harford

Quote from a Psychic - Psychic Ability

In 2009, I interviewed Rhonda Gibony' Harford about her work as a "Gifted" Astrologer, and about her abilities. At that time, Rhonda insisted that she was "gifted," not psychic. Since our interview, her psychic abilities have become more profound. Now, information comes to her with more strength and clarity than ever before. This is reaffirming what she has known since childhood: that she can tap into information from the Universe. Rhonda can feel the information, and her strengthened abilities make her a very effective reader.

A few blogs back (July 10, #6), I wrote about the many people I meet who have psychic ability, but are not ready to admit that they are psychic. They tell me that they don't like that word. Or, that if they admitted that they were psychic, their acquaintances would test them all the time. It would be too much pressure. Or, that being psychic is still taboo and they don't want their friends and family to think that they are crazy. However, over time, people begin admitting to themselves that they really are psychic. Rhonda's interview provides a prime example of the way people struggle with the idea of being psychic.

Here is a quote from my 2009 interview with Rhonda:

"I don't consider myself to be psychic. I am a professional astrologer and I am gifted. I have been gifted since birth. I remember things from when I was a very small child.

"Before I start a session, I ask clients if they would like to hear everything I have to say, good and bad. I don't know what is going to come in. My main tool is the astrological chart, but at the same time, additional information may pop into my head and I just say it. I want their permission to tell them. In 33 years, I have never advertised and I have had plenty of clients due to word-of-mouth advertising. I think it is because clients tell people that I am psychic.

"I'm not psychic, I am gifted. I don't like the word ‘psychic' because I don't feel that a person can be psychic all the time. I feel that it comes in at the right time and it goes out at the right time. It's not always there. In the ancient days, they were not called psychics, they were called Magi.

"However, the image of a man has been coming through my walls for years. I could see him, but I didn't know who he was. He was a Buddhist who lived thousands of years ago. He channels through a woman in Sedona. When I went to a conference a while ago, a woman came up to me, handed me a paper with his image on it, and said, ‘I am supposed to give this to you to let you know that he also works through you.' His name is Djwal Khul. I looked at the photo and realized it was the face I had seen on my wall."

If you want to know more about Rhonda, her full interview, including the information about her near-death experience, can be found online as a Kindle e-book. The interview book is just 99 cents and provides several stories about what it is like to be a psychic child, how psychic ability works, and how Rhonda integrates her psychic ability with her astrology work to provide informative readings.

For more information on Rhonda, you can contact her by phone at 520-320-7718, or send an e-mail to Her website is

Are you psychic too?


11:14 am mst

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